Zubeda
Posted in Projects on March 29th, 2010 by adminMarch 28th, Mumbai, India
Zubeda, (see ‘surgery’ post) has been released from St. George’s Hospital and is recovering well. Her arm is in a cast and she will be in some pain and discomfort for awhile, but she is expected to recover fully with time.
Although it is wonderful that Dirty Wall Project was able to help this young family, it has also served to highlight the plight of so many extremely poor Indian families.
A few days before I had met Zubeda and her family, and found out about Zubeda’s condition, the family had reached an ultimatum.They had sold some of their meager belongings to finance their trip to Mumbai. After 5 weeks in Mumbai, they had still not received treatment, they were completely out of money and their only option was to head back to their village in northern India.Without surgery, Zubeda would lose her arm, or worse, her life, leaving her young family in jeopardy. Her condition was very treatable, but her family didn’t have the money to pay for her treatment. Millions of families in India go without help and many lives are lost from preventable diseases and illnesses.
Last week while standing in the hospital corridor, waiting to collect Zubeda’s file from the doctor, a middle-aged woman in a hospital gown, approached me, pointing to her kidneys, and speaking in Marati. Andrew (Janvi) translated as she told us that one of her kidneys had failed and the other kidney was also failing. Her medical bills were staggering, even when counted in rupees. The waiting lists are endless with patients waiting for months and even years. If a suitable donor is found and her turn on the wait list comes up, the transplant and post treatment would cost thousands of rupees. She was standing before me, frail, desperate and asking for help to save her life. This surgery requires more money than either Janvi Charitable Trust or DWP can manage. This woman will likely die at St. George’s Hospital, pending a miracle.
This is just one story among thousands that echo through the halls of public hospitals throughout Mumbai, and across India.
Zubeda’s life, however, has changed for the better. DWP has helped this family by paying for Zubeda’s surgery, her post-surgery medicine, and for train tickets back to their village, for Zubeda, Ismail, and their son, Moshan. Every day for the past month, Asha and Andrew, (Janvi Charitable Trust), have fed and clothed Ismail and Moshan while Zubeda has been in hospital. I had lunch with Zubeda’s family today at Janvi’s office. Zubeda sat on the floor, her arm in a cast and sling, a multicolored burka wrapped around her face and draped over her lap. Her husband, Ismail, stood up quickly when he saw me, shook my hand and patted my back. Their young son Moshan sat oblivious to his mother’s situation, eating a biscuit and smiling.
After lunch, Andrew and I walked to the Crawford Market, a busy market area in Mumbai, teaming with vendors selling shoes and clothing. Hawkers yelled, horns honked and children ran between the tables piled with merchandise. The sound of a mosque calling people to prayer echoed through the streets. Andrew purchased a new bag for Ismail to carry the their modest possessions home. He also purchased Moshan three new sets of clothes and he bought new dresses for the daughters that Zubeda and Ismail had left at home. I watched as Andrew haggled with the shop keepers, excited to buy necessary things for the family. Andrew explained to me how nice it is, how we were able to help this family and that you never know who will be brought into your life and why.
I purchased their train tickets home.Their journey home is a long one. They will take a train from Mumbai to Lucknow in the north, which will take 24 hours. From Lucknow, they will board a bus for 8 hours to a small town, where they will take another local commuter bus 4 hours to their village. Zubeda and her family made this journey in reverse one month ago, with a few ruppees, an infected, serious injury, and a young child, hoping to find treatment. The journey home will be easier.
This afternoon, Asha, Ashley and I met Zubeda’s family at the train station to say good-bye and to help them get on the train. We all sat for 2 hours, waiting and talking in the mid-afternoon heat. Moshan ran circles around us as Ismail and I took turns watching him. Zubeda sat quietly while Ismail spoke to us. He hopes to start working again when they return home. He was a vegetable vendor before Zubeda’s accident, making just enough money for the family.
When their train pulled into the station emotions ran high.We all gathered their things and walked with them to their compartment on the train. Asha, who has become the surrogate grandmother, began reciting her list of worries, giving Ismail a list of things to watch out for, and how to care for his injured wife. When their few bags were stowed and there was nothing more to say, I shook Ismail’s hand, our eyes met, and although we never had a proper conversation because of the differences in culture and language, we had formed a kinship. Fearing tears, I tousled Moshan’s hair and said good-bye to Zubeda. Zubeda has been very stoic throughout her stay in hospital, but as we were leaving I noticed tears in her eyes. Ashley, Asha and I got off the train, stood on the platform by their window, and waved one last time as the train slowly moved out of the station. I doubt I will ever see this young family again which saddens me, but I am very grateful that I had a chance to help.
I also received some sad news today. In the past two weeks, in the Sangarsh Nagar community, I have worked with a young boy named Preshan. Two nights ago Preshan had helped me put up over 100 posters around the slum area to help promote our upcoming health camp near his home. He had taken to calling me “Kane brother”. I witnessed a smart young boy with a ready smile and a healthy laugh. I recieved a call this afternoon that Preshan’s sister, who is 16, committed suicide in their home last night. I don’t know the particulars yet, but I am in contact with friends of his family to see if there is something DWP can do to help his family in this tragic time. Out of respect for his family, we have postponed the blood-donor camp for one week. The funeral will be this afternoon. I will know in the next few days whether DWP can help Preshan’s family in any way.
I truly love doing work in India and creating projects for DWP, but it is not without heartache. I am granted permission to enter people’s lives and with that permission, I share their joys and their tragedies. Although I feel that DWP is making progress and helping, there are days that I feel the amount of help that I can give is not enough.
Tomorrow is a new day with new challenges, and hopefully I can make a difference for someone’s family that may help avoid tragedies like Preshan’s sister’s death.
Sincerly,
Kane Ryan